You Don't Have to Figure Out Parenting Alone

Personalized, heart-based parenting coaching to help you understand what's happening in your family, respond with greater confidence, and move toward meaningful change.

Let's talk about what's happening in your family, what you're hoping to change, and whether coaching is the right fit.

Why We Focus on the Heart

Transformation in your child and family is possible when you move beyond behavior and focus on the heart, where Jesus is at work.

Behavior matters. But behavior is often like the fruit on a tree. What we see on the outside is connected to what's happening underneath.

In coaching, we don't simply ask, "How do I get my child to stop doing that?" We look at what is happening beneath the behavior and consider what your child may be thinking, feeling, believing, or struggling with. We also look at what's happening in your own heart, because our children's behavior can stir up plenty in us, too.

Together, we'll learn to respond to the heart rather than simply manage the behavior. You'll learn practical tools for connection, correction, cooperation, emotional growth, and discipline, while keeping your focus on the deeper work Jesus is doing in you and your child.

What Working Together Actually Looks Like

You don't need to come to coaching with everything figured out. You bring what's happening in your home. Maybe your child is melting down over seemingly small things. Maybe you're stuck in the same power struggle every day. Maybe discipline isn't working the way you hoped it would. Or maybe you simply know something needs to change, but you're not sure what. 

As part of coaching, you'll work through teaching and video lessons that give you a foundation for understanding your children and responding to the challenges you're facing. Then we bring that learning into your actual family life.

When we meet each week, we don't just talk about the material. We talk about your children. We look at what's happening beneath the behavior, connect what you're learning to the situations you're facing, and work together to figure out how to apply the tools in a way that fits your family.

And then you try it.

You take what we've talked about back into your home and put it into practice. When we meet again, we talk about what happened. What worked? What didn't? What surprised you? What do we need to adjust?

That's coaching.

Learning the principles. Applying them to your family. Trying them in real life. Coming back together to learn, adjust, and grow.

About B.J. 

I'm B.J. Meurer, a Christian parenting coach, speaker, author, and public school educator. 

My background brings together more than two and a half decades as a public school educator, extensive experience working with children and families, and years of teaching and coaching with the National Center for Biblical Parenting, where I have developed a deep foundation in heart-based parenting and a relational approach to helping children grow and change. Along the way, I've also drawn from training and research in areas such as Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI), attachment, trauma-informed care, emotional regulation, co-regulation, child development, executive functioning, and the unique needs of children with autism and other developmental differences.

All of that experience shapes how I coach. I don't see parenting through a single lens. I want to understand what's happening beneath the behavior, consider what a particular child may need, and help parents discover practical ways to respond that strengthen both the child and the relationship.

I'm also raising eight children with my wife, Rachel. We've homeschooled our children, navigated the many different stages and needs that come with a large family, and learned firsthand what it means to put good parenting principles into practice in a real home, with real kids, real emotions, and plenty of moments when things don't go according to plan.

I don't coach from a place of having a perfect family or having all the answers. I coach from years of experience, a deep belief in what Jesus can do in families, and a commitment to walk alongside parents as they learn to see their children and their parenting differently.

What We'll Do Together 

Coaching is an eight-week, one-on-one experience designed to help you learn a heart-based approach to parenting and apply it to the situations you're actually facing at home.

How We'll Work Together

Learn
You'll work through online video lessons and coursework that introduce the parenting principles and practical tools we'll be using. You'll have ongoing access to the course even beyond our 8 weeks together, so you can return to the material whenever you need it. You'll move beyond simply understanding concepts to actually seeing your own parenting and your child's behavior through a different lens, learning how connection, cooperation, and correction work together in a heart-based approach to parenting.

Apply 

You'll take what you're learning in the video lessons and printables and put it into practice with your child during the week. Sometimes that means changing what you say or do. Sometimes it means seeing the situation differently before you respond. And sometimes it means developing and practicing new routines, frameworks, and ways of connecting with and reaching your child's heart.

Meet

When we meet each week, we'll talk through what's happening in your home and what you noticed as you put what you're learning into practice. We'll connect what you're learning to your specific family and your child's needs. We'll take the principles you're learning and figure out what they look like with your child and in your family. Every child is unique, and every parent is different. The heart tools may be the same, but how we use them with a particular child in a particular family can look very different.

Adjust
At our next meeting, we'll look at what happened, celebrate progress, work through what didn't go as expected, and adjust the approach when needed. That's where a lot of the coaching happens. We learn from what actually happened in your home rather than assuming every strategy will work the same way with every child. We'll slow down, get curious about what happened, and then figure out what to keep doing, what to change, and what to try next so that you're continuing to make progress with your child and your family.

What Coaching Includes